tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2867499321851601382.post4969339899922986899..comments2023-04-10T03:56:51.551-07:00Comments on A life lived alone: Get it right, get it tightalifelivedalonehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16182578435359178782noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2867499321851601382.post-70496749372746922382014-11-18T15:18:45.416-08:002014-11-18T15:18:45.416-08:00Hi Matt,
Very true :) I may just take you up on th...Hi Matt,<br />Very true :) I may just take you up on that one day! Yeah I thought the result wasn't too bad considering I was makeup free, hair pulled back and had my resting bitch face on LOL <br /><br />Again true.<br /><br />Yes, I think so too. It's hard to think you appeal to anyone when you've never had someone say 'I think you're cute lets go out!', and it's good advice about it being okay not to like someone-that can be hard to grasp but is totally normal and acceptable. <br /><br />I actually wish I worried less about it.....it affects my enjoyment of life and my confidence in approaching people-even as friends-I want to be happier about it. I always imagine how many companies would go broke if women (and men) the world over woke up and said 'I'm happy with how I look'-a hell of a lot eh?<br /><br />As always thinks for commenting :)<br />Vanessa alifelivedalonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16182578435359178782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2867499321851601382.post-68432396375317492662014-11-11T10:47:12.115-08:002014-11-11T10:47:12.115-08:00Different people find different things attractive ...Different people find different things attractive - it sounds like a cliche but it's true. For most of us, there are some people who find us attractive and some who don't. I don't know what you look like (I can give you an opinion if you want me to, but it would still only be one person's opinion) but I bet that plenty of people would find you attractive, and for some other people you won't be their type, and that's just how it will be. Your stats from that "how do I look" website suggest that you'll do fine looks-wise.<br /><br />Sure, there are a few people who look a certain way that most people find attractive (and then we see those few people splashed all over the media and it seems like they're everywhere) but the other 90% of us get by with being somewhere in the middle.<br /><br />I think that at least some of your doubt over this could be because you haven't been on dates and things like that so you haven't found out through experience that sometimes you'll like each other and sometimes you won't and that's OK. I was the same once - I thought that dates would be like in the movies or something. But then I went on a few and realised that it was OK that I wasn't Brad Pitt, because they weren't Elle Macpherson either, we were both just somewhere within the range of non-supermodels. Then we could decide whether we still liked the look of each other and whether we got on as people. Another tip: it's much easier if you mainly concentrate on whether You like Them. Let them figure out whether they like you - you don't have to figure it out for them, and it's their decision to make anyway. And if you're not the one for them then that's still OK because there are loads of others out there. Just need to get out there and sift through some of them!<br /><br />(Last bit - turning into long comment!) - I'm not trying to trivialise your worries about your looks. As well as being normal to look somewhere-in-the-middle, it's also normal to worry about how you look. It seems like most women (and quite a few men) worry about this these days. Certain companies make a lot of money out of these worries. So I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with you for having these fears - I'm just trying to offer a different way of looking at this.<br /><br /><br /><br />Matt79https://www.blogger.com/profile/16091166472887315707noreply@blogger.com