Wednesday 16 October 2013

What the hell?

My (sometimes) friend K invited me to go with her and a bunch of friends to a male stripper show. Yeah you read that right. Now I do not care if people want to pay to see other people take their clothes off-seriously knock yourself out. So I politely declined thinking that it was a perfectly reasonable answer to the question. As it turns out I was wrong about that. Everybody (and I mean everybody, I told my mum about it in a isn't-that-crazy-! type of way. She said 'you should go' um...what?) seems to think I'm crazy. Am I crazy? Maybe a little bit, but I think it's reasonable that I don't want to watch a bunch of naked dudes cavort about on a stage-it's not likely to help me personally and I doubt one of them is going to ask me out for coffee after either. Likely it'd just leave me embarrassed and out of sorts in front of K's friends who I don't know, oh and there should be ample opportunity for K to passively aggressively bring up my lack of dude experience. Or suggest I go on a reality TV show to find a husband. Again. But once again their doubts have bleed over onto me and now I'm wondering if I am indeed crazy for not going.
In other news I'm having a not so great week where I'm being forced to part with some critters I was rather attached too so I'm feeling pretty sad. And then there's the fact that I just can't seem to decide if I should apply for uni or not, I'm irritating myself with my indecision. Somedays I get excited at the thought, getting ready each day, learning things, walking around campus, hopefully meeting some new friends, the possibility of studying abroad but then I think the reality is likely to be very different and, probably, stressful not to mention tiring and I go of to mope about my lack of direction and inability to make a decision like a normal person.
Yep. So I made an outfit on polyvore instead, because I can do that and it brightens up my posts:

Spring open garden


That's it for now,
Vanessa

9 comments:

  1. You're not crazy - it's perfectly reasonable not to feel like going to a strip show, just like it's reasonable for others to want to go. It sounds like you're willing to accept your friends' choices without judging them, but they're not willing to do the same for you. That sucks! Hopefully in the future you'll meet some less judgmental people who can balance out the effects of your current crowd. My wife says she wouldn't want to go to a male strip show, so there's another vote for Not Crazy! I went to a few strip clubs with friends when I was younger (mostly on stag parties/bachelor parties) but I felt rather pathetic - I kept thinking "this person is only dancing for us because they're getting paid - I bet we look like losers to them!"

    As for the indecision on university, though, I still think deadlines are the way forward! You're trying to work out beforehand how it would be. There's only a certain number of hours you can spend usefully trying to analyse things like that beforehand - after that I think it's necessary just to commit to trying something. You don't have to, obviously (and you could try travel instead of uni) but I'm just saying that after a while there's not much to be gained from further "what-if" thinking because you've already covered it all!

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    1. Hopefully! Your wife sounds like my kind of lady :) I know some men really like looking at strippers-I think men are more visual then women, but of course some women are visual too so each to their own. I'd rather admire (is that creepy? Maybe.) a cute guy in the supermarket than pay to see naked guys on a stage.

      Yes I agree! But what if I decide not to go? What will I have a deadline for then.......
      I'm the worst what-if person ever. I drive myself and everyone else nuts with it. And I always either go what-if best scenario or what-if worst scenario-instead of the more likely what-if middle ground. I am the what-if master, pity it doesn't really do you any good......
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    2. If you decide not to go then the deadline is for going travelling instead! It sounded like both uni and travelling were things you would rather do in your 20s, so my suggestion is to push yourself (I know that's not your favourite phrase) to do one or the other. I think you mentioned not wanting to go travelling without a travel partner, which I can understand, so maybe that means uni is the more likely option, unless there's more you can do to push for finding a travel partner sooner. Presumably those can be initially found online, and you're good at finding things online, right? (But then find a way to get to know them a bit in real life as well after enough online contact to make this feel possible.) Or if not travel, then uni is compulsory! Unless you have a brilliant reason for not doing either...

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    3. Actually I'd love to go traveling alone.....just too scared to do it at the moment
      :( One of the things that puts me off uni is the whole 'alone in a strange place' scenario, which I realise at my age is a bit odd but I have 'safe' people and without them I'm even more of a nervous mess. Without that anxiety things like uni would be a heck of a lot more exciting and feel more doable-but I guess I'll never do anything if I keep letting it stop me, I'll have to 'man up' at some point-it's just getting to that point, so that's what I'm trying to do at the moment :)
      Vanessa

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    4. Sure - I know that you've mentioned having "safe people" and I'm not meaning to neglect that point. I'm just trying to think of ways to work within that, like finding and developing a safe person who will go travelling with you, or a safe person who will go to uni with you. How long does it take to develop a safe person? Maybe this is becoming a suggestion for another blog post topic - if you feel like it of course!

      Oh, and I meant to say: admiring cute guys/women in daily life is not creepy - it's one of the cool things about being alive! I mean, it's possible to make it creepy by taking it too far (e.g. following them home and trying to climb through their window), but just looking at them for a bit isn't doing any harm - the guys would probably enjoy you looking at them too!

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    5. I will do a post about safe people, it's not something that you hear about that often-maybe I'll find some more people who have 'safe people', I'd like that!

      Yeah I don't follow people home. Or break in to watch them sleep (Twilight anyone?). I won't even approach a famous person for an autograph cause I feel like I'm being rude LOL If they catch me looking they'll know what I'm up to anyhow.........I have pale skin and blush like crazy......*sigh*
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  2. P.S. I've looked at a couple of the new blogs you've added to your Blog List on the right of the page. How do you find these blogs? I've occasionally searched for new blogs (just by using an internet search engine and trying to think of a few key words) but often I find it hard to find anything current that fits the bill. You seem to be good at this!

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    1. I find them through google and other blogs mostly. I'm a google hound though-I find some seriously obscure stuff on there. I once was researching a hobby that had a lot of people in germany so I learned some german keywords so I could find more info via google. I've hunted down some crazy stuff on the net ;)
      Vanessa

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